These answers draw in part from “Managing Conflict & Strengthening Relationships with your Patients” by Ellie Kazemi, PhD (BehaviorLive), and extend it with peer-reviewed research from our library of 27,900+ ABA research articles. Clinical framing, BACB ethics code references, and cross-links below are synthesized by Behaviorist Book Club.
View the original presentation →Unresolved conflict between BCBAs and caregivers tends to reduce caregiver engagement, decrease the probability that treatment procedures are implemented consistently at home, and increase dropout from services. When families feel their concerns are not heard or respected, they reduce their investment in the treatment relationship — implementing procedures less consistently, sharing less information about what is happening at home, and eventually discontinuing services. Each of these outcomes directly compromises client progress. Treatment that is technically excellent but delivered in a fractured relational context produces worse outcomes than technically adequate treatment delivered in a strong collaborative relationship.
Kazemi's framework identifies several key features: surfacing conflict rather than avoiding it, since avoidance allows unresolved concerns to erode the relationship; distinguishing between surface-level positions and underlying needs, since most behavioral objections reflect deeper concerns; maintaining clinical honesty while communicating with genuine empathy; reaching resolutions that are explicit and documented rather than implicit and fragile; and following up to verify that the resolution is holding. Effective conflict management is a skill set that can be developed through deliberate practice, not a personality trait.
Conflict resolution, when handled with transparency and mutual respect, provides evidence that the relationship can withstand disagreement — which is fundamentally reassuring for caregivers who may be anxious about the professional relationship. A caregiver who has seen a BCBA listen carefully to their concern, modify a clinical recommendation where modification was clinically appropriate, and maintain their position honestly where modification was not appropriate, develops a more confident and trusting relationship than one whose experience of the BCBA has been uniformly smooth. Genuine relationships have friction; the ability to navigate that friction is evidence of relationship strength.
High-stakes conversation skills include: active listening (attending fully to the other person's position before formulating a response), perspective-taking (accurately identifying what the other person is most concerned about), emotional regulation (managing one's own arousal during difficult conversations without shutting down or escalating), clinical honesty (maintaining truthful communication even under social pressure), and explicit resolution (ensuring that conversations end with a specific, documented plan rather than an unspoken compromise). Each of these skills can be developed through role-play, structured reflection, and deliberate practice in lower-stakes contexts before high-stakes situations arise.
The most common mistake is addressing the surface objection — 'extinction is evidence-based' — without addressing the underlying concern — 'I do not want my child to suffer.' This addresses the intellectual dimension of the disagreement while leaving the emotional and values dimension unaddressed, producing a conversation where the BCBA wins the logic argument but loses the relationship. Effective conflict management around procedure objections requires explicitly acknowledging the caregiver's underlying concern about their child's experience, engaging with that concern substantively, and only then discussing the clinical rationale for the procedure.
Conflict within the supervisory team — between BCBAs and RBTs, between co-supervisors, between BCBAs and administrators — has direct clinical implications through its effect on treatment consistency and organizational culture. BCBAs who avoid surfacing clinical disagreements with their supervisees model conflict avoidance for the entire team. RBTs who do not feel safe raising concerns about programming implement those programs with reduced fidelity. The same conflict management principles apply within the team: surface disagreements early, distinguish underlying needs from surface positions, and reach resolutions that are honest and documented.
Code 2.09 requires BCBAs to address caregiver concerns and to attempt resolution in a manner serving the client's best interests. Code 2.02's informed consent requirement establishes that caregivers have ongoing rights to question and reconsider treatment decisions. Code 1.03 requires honest communication, which prohibits the common avoidant pattern of superficially agreeing with a caregiver while maintaining a different clinical approach in practice. These codes together establish that conflict engagement is an ethical obligation, not merely a clinical recommendation.
Several indicators suggest a conflict should be escalated: when the BCBA's direct attempts to resolve the conflict have not produced a stable resolution after multiple conversations, when the conflict involves allegations against the BCBA or their team, when the conflict involves a clinical disagreement significant enough to affect service delivery in ways the BCBA cannot unilaterally resolve, or when the BCBA's own emotional response to the conflict is interfering with their ability to engage productively. Escalating early, before a conflict becomes entrenched, produces better outcomes than escalating after the relationship has significantly deteriorated.
Preparation for anticipated conflict involves several steps: identifying the likely positions and underlying needs on each side before the conversation, clarifying your own clinical position and the evidence supporting it, identifying where you have genuine flexibility (areas where modification is clinically appropriate) and where you do not, planning how you will open the conversation to signal genuine engagement rather than defense, and deciding in advance what a good outcome looks like and what you will do if the conversation does not reach that outcome. This preparation does not mean scripting the conversation but does mean entering it with sufficient clarity about your own position and goals to engage productively under pressure.
Kazemi's argument is that relationships that have navigated genuine conflict and reached honest resolution are more robust than relationships that have never encountered friction. The mechanism is the demonstration effect: when a caregiver experiences their BCBA listening carefully to a concern, engaging with it honestly, and modifying a recommendation where modification was genuinely warranted, they have evidence that the relationship can handle real disagreement. This evidence increases trust and engagement in ways that uniformly smooth interactions cannot. The resolution is 'stronger' in the sense that the relationship has demonstrated a capacity for honest negotiation, which is more durable than a relationship built entirely on harmony.
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